Culture is basically the way of life of a people. It is ?the social and religious structures and intellectual and artistic manifestations, etc that characterize a society.? Every group of people has values ? the DO?S and DON?T that are better learned by living with and observing the people of that particular society interacting with one another. Obviously, some behaviors that are acceptable in one society could be an abomination in another. If one may ask, are the African children raised in traditional African societies better behaved than the ones raised in Diaspora? The answer (s) to this question would vary from individuals, but the general consensus is that because of environmental factors African children raised in Diaspora often display behaviors that, under normal circumstances, would not be tolerated or accepted in a traditional African society. Many African parents in Diaspora are worried about that, because they want their children to acquire their traditional African cultural heritage ? that is, African children with African traditions. Victor Dike
How possible is this?these children were born and raised in diaspora,how will they be able to understand the African values?Their immediate family is an important factor,that is the mother and father(for those that have no uncle,aunt and grandparents) it goes a long way for the children too,the parents must instill discipline and respect on their children,the African parents i noticed back home depends too much on the extended family to care for their own children, they shy away from their responsibilities,sending their children to their own parents,why laden your parents with your own responsibilities?they have done a good job of taking care of you,now your children!It is good that parents in diaspora are faced with the responsibilities of teaching their children, i could remember a day i boarded a bus with my son, i wanted to carry him on my legs, he refused and insisted i get up for him to sit,i tried to talk him to sitting on my legs he refused and started arguing which resulted into crying aloud unnecessarily it attracted the attention of other passengers,i have to slap his bombom very hard which made him realised that what he is doing is bad.In a nutshell, i refused to allow him have his ways which made most the whites very furious but they could not say anything,i was expecting someone to say a word or llama policia which i thought was the order of the day for them but non was forthcoming.I believe it is good that parents in diaspora should stop listening to all the lies,which says if your child cries too loud or constantly your white neighbours will call the police or social assistance to take your child from you,these are all lies and should not debarr you from shaping your children the way you want them to be.
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For many African parents, raising their children in Diaspora (particularly the U.S) is a very daunting and challenging task. The reasons are many, including the culture of the society, which gives enormous powers to the child. Torn between two cultures, African parents are therefore in a dilemma as to where to raise their children. Those who have the infrastructure and courage to send their children back home to Africa (in the care of their relatives) to get familiarized with the African culture have many things to be thankful for. While completing their high school education, some of them seize the opportunity to know their uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews and grandparents, and to grow up in an environment where morality and good character education are relatively regarded. But a few of the misinformed African parents in Diaspora who have argued that those who ?ship? their children home are ?callous? and ?selfish? seem to forget that there is no substitute for a good education anchored on progressive traditional African values. It is difficult, if not impossible, for an African child to acquire a good western education with a blend of African cultural and traditional values in Diaspora. Because the system lacks the tools to teach African culture and tradition and virtues such as obedience and respect for the elders/higher authorities, to care for parents at old age (not dumping them in old folks? home), community orientation, good moral character and behavior, among others. Common sense shows that if the culture and tradition of a people perishes, the group also perishes. By Victor Dike
I agree with my colleague that there is nothing like bringing up an African child in the African society where there is good morality and good character education.Also, he fails to remember that in that same African society,there we have tyrants,cultist, those that practice cannibalism etc.A society where one is not sure of what will happen next,the government and the economy are unstable,you send your child to the university for a four year course, he/she ends up spending 4 years multiply by x.Those student cultist, who are their founding fathers and sponsors?What is morality in the African society where lecturers gives marks in exchange for sex?I heard that there are cultist among secondary school students now.In 2004 when i just came to Spain,i remembered whenever we want to board a train we have to click our ticket,at times the security men will be at the watch, most often there are not there,i noticed that the Spaniard ALWAYS click their pass while most Africans don't without the watching eyes of the guilds.So what did we learn from our moral society?